In 2024, many people are feeling fatigued by dating apps and are turning to real-life socializing to find a potential life partner. Single and The City, an events-based company founded by Amber Soletti, is helping match people based on specific preferences such as first responders, fitness enthusiasts, or other common interests. The company hosts a variety of events in New York City, Austin, and New Orleans, where singles can mingle and potentially find a connection. Soletti started the company in 2008 after struggling to meet the type of singles she was interested in dating and wanted to create a better opportunity to find love.
Single and The City hosts events based on specific “dating dealbreakers” such as physical preferences, common interests, or backgrounds. One of their most popular events is the “Rescue Me” singles party where women have the opportunity to mix and mingle with eligible first responders in New York City. Events typically draw in anywhere from 75 to 250 people and include icebreaker activities to help break the ice and make attendees feel more comfortable. Other popular events include Ivy League dating, finance dating, size matters, Fleet Week, and Jewish speed dating. The company has seen a 67% increase in attendance this year, attributed to people feeling frustrated and fatigued by dating apps and seeking real-life connections.
Relationships expert Alana Carvalho supports the idea of social events for dating as a way to meet a large number of singles in one evening and quickly assess chemistry with potential matches. She notes that online dating can leave individuals feeling further disconnected and disenfranchised, making in-person meet-ups a valuable alternative. Single and The City’s founder, Soletti, encourages attendees to keep an open mind and not put too much pressure on one night of events. She advises that different singles attend each event and all it takes is one meaningful connection to make the effort worthwhile.
Soletti shared her own success story of meeting her 6’7 husband at a “size matters” speed dating event she hosted in 2012. The couple now has a six-year-old daughter named Nola who often helps at events by assisting with check-in and handing out name tags. Soletti’s personal experience serves as a reminder that finding love at singles events is possible, and attendees should remain hopeful and optimistic in their search for a genuine connection. The company continues to host events in multiple cities, providing opportunities for singles to meet like-minded individuals and potentially find their perfect match.
